Exam Anxiety

Salam and Hi all.

Recently, a Spm-er texted me on Wechat.
and she told me:

She worried about her upcoming SPM, the real one. She don't know what to do.
She studied a lot but still can't cope with those study thingy.
and stuff like that.

(I deleted her texts - so I'm sorry I can't show it here)

Apparently she needs some motivations - I guess. I don't know if I can or I'm the right one to give her some inspirations and stuff.
Because I'm not a speaker nor a counselor etc.
But I love to give people my opinion especially on students or pre teen.

So I did, I gave her advises and tips thingy.
I always loved to do that tho.

Personally I think what she worried about is not the exam, basically its about herself - her own ability.
To be clearer, she scared of failure - plus she don't believe herself. This is what we called: Pressure for Perfection.
Which can lead you to be stressful, can't sleep well and worry a lot. etc.
That's why you become one of negative persons - and lose your confidence.

To be frank, when I was about to face the SPM back then. I was a bit nervous on subject that I really really wanted to score such as Physics and Add-Math.
But Alhamdulillah I was able to overcome my nervousness. It's not that hard.

What you can do is, just ignore that feeling. That feeling is normal and natural - but it is totally rubbish!
That feeling will gives your brain negative messages like "I think I can't do this", "It's hard", "I know I can't reach my target" etc.
You must replace this with positive thoughts such as "The feeling is totally crap", "I can do this", "Will give a try and do my best".

You have to be positive before you go in for exam.

You might say: It's hard, I can't, how blablabla

Trust me, it won't be working if you keep asking. Just do it!

If I can, why not you?

What you have to think and set on your mind is YOU CAN DO THIS!
No one knows your abilities as much as yourself.
Put your target mengikut kemampuan diri.
Don't push yourself that much. Live happily!

You don't have to be perfect in exam tho.
You have to do your best.
YOUR BEST. NOT HER/HIS BEST OR YOUR MOM/DAD BEST.
Failing to reach your target is not the end of the world.

You just have to keep focusing on your exam.
Strive earnestly - as much as you can.
Keep studying for the exam and enjoy your life at the same time.

Try to imagine yourself with flying colours etc.
It might helps - maybe a bit.
Lantaklah orang nak kata you berangan ke apa.
This is for yourself to gain some confidence. Just do it!

I don't say you have to be so so so confident and then you tak dapat you frustrated blahblah.
You just need to know your own ability and be confident with it.

Thank you for sharing your worries girl.
Staying calm yourself.

All the best for the exam and future.
Peace.